I've not blogged for a while - busy busy and all that.
So, today I'm going to kick off a run of daily blogs. To keep it nice and short I'm going to put down a rule a day from what I've been reading on Neuro-Linguistic Programming lately (wiki entry here for 'what is NLP?').
One rule per day from the secrets of the NLP trade.... otherwise known as factors that can affect your judgement and change your decision or mind when faced with everyday information. Some are obvious, some less so.
Day 1 - Observation 1: Wow! You're just like me!
- Watch out when you're asked about your hobbies, interests, your home town,
values, beliefs, favourite TV, music or foods etc. if this is followed by a
'wow, me too' response from somebody. If it happens a lot, then they are
probably not being 100% truthful with you.
- Another aspect of this rule is that if someone is being nice and agreeing with
everything we are saying we tend to like them more and - as a consequence - tend
to automatically agree with them more even if it doesn't really make sense to do so.
This response is automatic and very difficult to fight off.
- Rapport and chat create trust that might not be correct. Talking with someone in
a certain way, that is similar to the way they talk (speed, tone, words used etc) allows
a person to create a psychological or emotional bridge. If this happens to you then
you immediately feel more comfortable, less inclined to stop and think about what it
is the person is saying - after all they are saying it how you would.. Take great care
if your movements, speech pattern or tone are being echoed.
On a slightly less intense theme, Michael Heppell, he of 'Be Brilliant' fame(?) posted a link recently to a great site that carries pics of 3-D street art. Click and wonder for yourself at the skills of Julian Beever
Just remember, If you don't take control of your mind, others will do it for you.
2 comments:
Heh, it's interesting that this is suggesting to 'watch out' for that rapport creation. In my counselling course we were taught that it's an important skill to develop, as it will encourage your client to feel more at ease with you and be able to open up to you.
I do love the 3-D art guy. It's interesting that you posted that link, as I spotted this very recently. It's an interesting if slightly disturbing idea http://derrenbrown.co.uk/blog/2010/09/speed-bumps-future-creepy-optical-illusion-children/
Yes, this is a great example of how NLP can be used for good and for bad. Knowledge of the 'language-mind-embeddedness' process is the interesting thing for me.
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